Simple Guidelines to Have a Stronger Relationship

by Bella Elaine

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There are reliable tools that can used to create a strong and healthy relationship, many of which have not been taught in our culture. If you want to have a healthy relationship, follow these simple guidelines.

Do not expect anyone to be responsible for your happiness. Ask yourself why you aren’t happy. Too often, relationships fail because someone is unhappy and blames the partner. Your life is solely under your control, with your relationship you have to take the good with the bad.

Make and keep clear agreements. Respect the differences between yourself and your partner. Do not expect your partner to agree with you on every issue. If you say you’re going to meet your partner for lunch at noon, be on time or call if you absolutely must be late. If you agree to have a monogamous relationship, keep that agreement.

Use communication to establish a common ground to understand different points of view and to create a mutual, collaborative agreement or plan. Having a healthy relationship means that, while you have your experience, and your partner has his or her experience, you love and share and learn from those experiences. And if you can’t reach any kind of mutual agreement, that doesn’t mean either of you are wrong.

“Approach your relationship as a learning experience…”

Tell the unarguable truth. Be truthful to yourself and your partner if you want true love. Many people are taught to lie to protect someone’s feelings, either their own or their partner’s. Lies create disconnection between you and your relationship, even if your partner never finds out about it. For any sort of relationship, to work you need to have trust.

“Lies create disconnection between you and your relationship”

Forgive one another. Forgiveness is a decision of letting go of the past and focusing on the present. It’s about taking control of your current situation. Talk about the issue and try to reach a mutual agreement on how to handle the situation in the future and then commit to it. It’s the only way to prevent yourself from more disappointment, anger or resentment. If you learn from the past and do not repeat the same pattern, it’s a good sign.

One possible way to do this is to talk after having a misunderstanding or argument. For example, you can ask your partner to give you some time to think of the wrong and right things that you and he/she did. Ask your partner to do the same thing and talk to them when you are both ready. Ask your partner to give you time to talk and explain to them why you were angry, the wrong things you did, the things they did that you did not like and what you would like them to change.

“Admit your mistakes and say sorry”

Spend some quality time together. No matter how busy you two are, there is always an excitement when you do something together, when you share your precious time. Play a sport, eat at a restaurant, or watch your favorite movies together.

Laugh Together. Not only is it true that laughter is the best medicine, but it’s also true that laughter can make a great relationship. Not only does laughing establish a connection, it can help keep passionate feelings in perspective.

Develop a realistic expectation about sex and intimacy. This should not be based on what is taught in the media or films. This also implies finding new and creative ways to pleasing each other intimately.

Arrange a safe haven (time and place) from the stressful daily hassles of life to enjoy one another. This can include a quiet dinner along the beach, a walk in the park, etc.

Very importantly, support each other. If your partner has to do something for his school, studies or work, support them. This will make them feel loved, and it will make them realize that they also have a friend in you, not just a romantic interest. Be supportive. Be their number one fan.

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Snipe April 16, 2012 at 2:20 am

Very interesting info! Perfect just what I was searching for!

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